Rushing Things

Good afternoon people the virtual world of Asia! I am currently in my boxers and just lounging around. Today, I'm going to talk about relationship.

It is a weird topic for me because I don't normally talk about it or share it with the internet because I don't think it's fun to talk about my boring relationship.

I have been a monogamist for 5 years now and soon to be 6 years, and I am very happy. We dated back when we were young, I guess you can say adolescent or High School for short. The 2 years that I've been with my boyfriend was the High School year we're together, and after High School we had to be separated due to University. I had my own plans and he had his own plans, which was good, because I think it's good that we have different goals and support each other for it. Therefore, it's 3 years that I'm in a long distance relationship with my current boyfriend (but that's ok, he comes home a lot). He is studying in the US, whilst I'm studying in Singapore.

I had graduated in 2014 and was happy that I have found and earned my own money, but currently I am unemployed.

Anyway, stating the real topic here is about Rushing Things.

I've been asked a few times by my friends as to when I'm going to finally seal the deal. Bare in mind that I am still 22 years old, I don't think it would be anytime soon. They all just see how many years I've been with my boyfriend and not see that the timing isn't right.

At some point their questions gets into my head and I kept asking my boyfriend when he's finally be ready to meet my family, but when we actually have the conversation out loud it just made me feel like I'm stupid. I get it why he's not ready yet. He has his reasons to be not ready and I respect that. Then again, why would I want to rush things when I'm already having a good time with him. Why would I want to rush things when I still have time to focus on myself, and I haven't reached my dreams yet.

Though it would be nice to see mini-me in a guy version running around everywhere, but I don't think it's the right time for me too. Just because I've been in a long term relationship with a guy that I don't even see everyday or month, doesn't mean I have to seal the deal any minute now. We're both just taking the time to grow as an individual person first in order for you to finally meet again in the middle.

Soooo, my best advice for you guys is to not overthink things and rush things. Take a step back and see the big picture first.



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